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Srećan međunarodni dan žena! Današnji dan se tradicionalno obeležava malim znacima pažnje namenjenim ženama, najčešće u vidu cveća, bombonjera i drugih poklona, ali ako mene pitate, poenta međunarodnog dana žena je time velikim delom promašena. Žene su kroz istoriju morale da udruže snage i bore se za svoja elementarna ljudska prava: na obrazovanje, zaposlenje i samostalne prihode, posed imovine, pravo glasa na izborima, samostalan odabir partnera, razvod braka, zdravstvenu zaštitu, prijavu silovanja, porodičnog ili partnerskog nasilja nadležnim organima, kao i mnoga druga prava koja su se muškarcima od samog začetka ljudskog društva podrazumevala. Činjenica da i danas, 2021. godine, žene nailaze na različite oblike mizoginije u svim sferama života, kao i to da se njihova elementarna ljudska prava krše na različite načine širom sveta i što često nemaju dovoljno podrške da dobiju pravdu koju zaslužuju je ozbiljan znak za uzbunu. 

Prilikom zasnivanja novog radnog odnosa, poslodavci ženama postavljaju pitanja vezana za njihov privatni život i planiranje porodice iako je to protivzakonito, dok se od muškaraca to uglavnom ne traži. U mnogim zemljama i na brojnim radnim mestima, žene su manje plaćene od muškaraca za isto radno mesto, isto radno vreme i istu poziciju iako imaju isti, ili čak viši stepen obrazovanja. Postporođajna depresija, koja se javlja kod sve većeg broja žena, u mnogim kulturama i sredinama se zataškava, a žene koje se nekome obrate nailaze na osudu i ubeđivanje da "to ne postoji" umesto da dobiju adekvatnu pomoć, što se često završi tragično. Žene koje su bile žrtve silovanja ili seksualnog zlostavljanja, i koje su smogle snage da progovore o traumama koje su pretrpele i optuže svog silovatelja, nisu pošteđene brutalnih opaski i komentara poput "zašto si ćutala do sad", "nije silovanje ako se desilo više puta", "ti si kriva, sama si to tražila" i "sigurno laže da bi izvukla neku korist" i to dodatno obeshrabruje one koje se s tim još uvek bore. Jedan od najboljih i najskorijih primera sistemskog napada na prava i slobode žena je zakon donet u Poljskoj koji zabranjuje ženama bezbedne abortuse čak i u slučajevima fatalnih anomalija fetusa, gde bi se deca koju su prisiljene da rode rađala mrtva ili ne bi doživela ni svoj prvi rođendan. Primera širom sveta ima još mnogo, ali mislim da svakako shvatate koliko su stvari ozbiljne. Nema te ruže, čokolade, nakita ili parfema koji mogu da ponište neprekidne udare na živote i dostojanstvo kako cis, tako i trans žena.

Želim da mi porodica, prijatelji, a posebno potencijalni poslodavci i neki tamo nebitni ljudi ne postavljaju pitanja imam li dečka ili muža, kad planiram i da li uopšte planiram da se udam i imam decu jer se to ne tiče nikoga osim mene. Želim da imam slobodu da obučem bilo šta i izađem iz kuće bez razmišljanja da li će moj dekolte ili suknja izazvati nekog manijaka. Želim da niko ne sudi o meni na osnovu toga kako izgledam, kako se oblačim i koliko kilograma imam. Želim da znam da sam zaštićena od nasilja bilo koje vrste u porodici, partnerskom odnosu, u školi i na fakultetu, na radnom mestu i gde god idem u svako doba dana i noći. Želim da mi niko ne dobacuje, trubi i zviždi za mnom kad prođem ulicom. Želim da niko ko pomisli da digne ruku na mene ne prođe nekažnjeno. Želim da se moje mišljenje, stavovi, osećanja i reči poštuju, moje "ne" znači "ne". Želim da me posmatraju kao ljudsko biće koje ima svoja prava, a ne kao seksualni objekat. Želim da poštujete moj život, ljudska prava i dostojanstvo. Želim da živim svoj život bez strahova. Prava žena su ljudska prava.

Ne želim ružu za osmi mart, želim revoluciju!!!

Happy International Women's Day! This day is traditionally celebrated by giving women tokens of appreciation, mostly in the form of flowers, chocolates and other gifts, but if you ask me, it seriously misses the point. Women had to join forces and fight for their elementary human rights throughout history: education, employment and their own income, having property, the right to vote during elections, to choose a partner on their own, to file for divorce, healthcare, to report sexual assault or domestic violence to the authorities, as well as many other rights that were guaranteed to men since society came to be. The fact that even today, in 2021, women come across different forms of misogyny in all spheres of life, as well as seeing their basic human rights being disrespected in many different ways around the world without an adequate support system to rely on when they demand the justice they deserve is something we should be worried about.

During job interviews, women are often asked about their private lives and planning families by their potential employers although it's illegal, while men are rarely asked about the topic. In many countries and in many workplaces, women are paid less than men for the same jobs, same working hours and same functions despite being equally, or even more qualified than their male counterparts. Postpartum depression, which occurs in a growing number of women, is being pushed under the rug in many cultures and environments, and women who talk to someone about it are judged and gaslighted into believing that "it doesn't exist" instead of getting the help they need, which often ends tragically. Women who were victims of rape or sexual assault and who gathered the courage to speak up about their traumas and accuse their rapist, aren't spared from brutal comments such as "why haven't you said anything before", "it's not rape if it happened more than once", "it's your fault, you asked for it" and "she must be lying to gain something from it" and that additionally discourages those who are still struggling. One of the most recent and most remarkable examples of the systemic oppression of women's rights and freedom is the law in Poland that bans safe abortions even if the fetus has suffered a lethal anomaly, and the children those women would be forced to have would either be born dead or die by their first birthday. There are so many other examples worldwide, but you surely see how serious things are. There is no rose, chocolate, piece of jewelry or perfume that could undo the constant attacks against women's lives and dignity, both cis and trans women alike.

I want my family, friends, and especially potential employers and irrelevant people to stop asking me if I have a boyfriend or husband, when or if I'm planning to get married and have children because it's no one's concern but mine. I want to have the freedom to wear whatever I want and leave the house without being afraid that my cleavage or skirt might provoke a maniac. I want to not be judged by what I look like, how I dress and how much I weigh. I want to know that I am protected against violence of any kind in my family, relationship with a partner, at school or college, at work and wherever I go at any time of day and night. I want to not be cat-called and whistled at when I walk down the street. I want no one who even thinks to raise their hand at me to go unpunished. I want my opinion, stance, feelings and words to be respected, my "no" means "no". I want to be seen as a human being who has their rights instead of being perceived as a sexual object. I want you to respect my life, human rights and dignity. I want to live my life with no fears. Women's rights are human rights.

I don't want a rose for the 8th of March, I want a revolution!!!