How she handles pain, that s***'s amazing

♪ ♫ Ariana Grande - thank u, next ♫ ♪

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Svakome od nas se sigurno desilo da nam je do neke osobe stalo i da je iskreno volimo, ali iz nekog razloga s tom osobom nije uspelo, bez obzira da li se radi o nekom prijateljstvu ili ljubavi. Meni se to dogodilo s nekoliko ljudi - okončana prijateljstva, muškarci u koje sam bila zaljubljena, jednostavno nije bilo suđeno i jedini izbor koji sam imala bio je da nastavim dalje. Naravno da ćemo u početku biti tužni ili besni na sebe, tu osobu ili ceo univerzum, ali odatle možemo otići u dva pravca - ili da predugo budemo ozlojeđeni i samo pogoršavamo stvari ili da pronađemo nešto dobro u celom tom iskustvu i okrenemo novi list. Moj izbor je da iz svakog neuspelog prijateljstva ili veze izvučem nešto dobro, razmislim o tome kakve sam lekcije naučila iz toga i kako dalje mogu da napredujem, a potom i da pronađem način da budem zahvalna na tome što mogu da evoluiram. Ako bismo uporedili neku vezu ili prijateljstvo koje ide u potpuno drugačijem smeru od onoga kom smo težili s brodom koji tone, besmisleno je na silu održavati nešto što ne može da uspe isto onoliko koliko je besmisleno da uzmemo kofu i prosipamo vodu s palube dok ona nadire sve jače. Mnogo je mudrije u tim situacijama napustiti brod jer ćemo samo nanositi sebi veću štetu pokušavajući da spasimo ono što se spasiti ne može. Još uvek se trudim da to savladam i bolje procenim kad je vreme da se okrenem i odem jer mi je stalo, ali ako se jednom okrenem, ne vraćam se nazad. Ono što završi u prošlosti tamo ostaje s razlogom.
Kada mi se osećanja smire posle neke takve situacije i kad sagledam sve hladnije glave, s osmehom kažem: "Hvala, sledeći" i počinjem da pravim u svom životu mesta za nove srećne uspomene s onima koji su toga zaista vredni. Kako vi gledate na ovakve situacije i šta je to što vas motiviše da nastavite dalje kad vam je teško? Recite mi u komentarima da podelimo iskustva, možda je to baš sada nekome potrebno. ♡

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I'm sure that everyone among us had that someone we sincerely loved and cared about, but for some reason it didn't work out with them whether it was a friendship or a relationship. It happened to me with several people through the years - friendships that were terminated, men that I was in love with, it just wasn't meant to be and the only choice I had was to move on. Of course we'll be sad or angry at ourselves, that other person or the entire universe at first, but we can go two ways from that point - we can either be upset for an eternity and make things worse or find something good about the whole thing and turn a new page. I choose to take something good from every failed friendship or relationship, think about what lesson I learned from it and how I can make progress, and then find a way to be thankful for the way it helped me evolve. If we compared a relationship or friendship that isn't going in the direction we were hoping for to a sinking ship, it makes zero sense to forcefully maintain something destined to fail, just like it makes absolutely no sense to take a bucket to pour the water away from the deck as more water keeps coming in. That's when it's much wiser to leave the ship because we'll only do more damage to ourselves by trying to save what cannot be saved. I'm still trying to learn it and to decide when it's really time to walk away because I do care, but once I turn my back and leave, I'm never coming back. The past is in the past for a reason.
Once my feelings settle down after such a situation and I take a look at it more rationally, I smile and say: "Thank u, next" and start making more room for new happy memories with those who are really worth it in my life. What's your view on these situations and what is it that motivates you to move on when you're having a hard time? Let me know in the comments, someone might need it right now. ♡

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