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photos by Nataša from In Fashion Chains

SheIn emerald green faux fur coat (find it here)  //  United Colors of Benetton white shirt  //  Women'Secret emerald green bra (find it here)  //  H&M high waist vintage fit jeans  //  Guess by Marciano bag  //  Rosefield The Boxy sunray watch (find it here)  //  Gifts for a Designer simple circle necklace (find it here)  //  Cosmic Chains Zodiac Cancer necklace in light gold (find it here)  //  eBay Hindi name necklace (find it here)  //  Seaside black ankle boots

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Pre svega, želim da odam priznanje muškarcima koje sam odbila i koji su se ponašali onako kako se od njih to i očekuje - prihvataju to i nastave dalje. Međutim, danas je malo muškaraca koji poštuju to što su odbijeni i to shvataju ozbiljno, mnogo češće ćete sretati one koji se vode idejom da "devojku ne dobija lep nego uporan" i koji će nastaviti da pokušavaju da dobiju ono što žele, a kada ih odbijete i hiljaditi put onda će pokušavati da vas uvrede i ponize, ogovaraju kod poznanika jer ne mogu da se nose s tim i žele da se osećate loše zbog toga što ste ih odbile ne biste li se predomislile i dale mu šansu samo da bi ućutao. Kao što ni svaki muškarac ne želi da bude s vama zato što mu se ne dopadate (što je sasvim normalno) i neće se predomisliti niti popustiti ako ga budete gušile, isto tako ni vi, drage moje devojke i žene, niste dužne da prihvatate svakog ko vam priđe i zadržavate svako pravo da kažete "ne". Ne može i ne mora vam se dopasti svaki muškarac koga sretnete i upoznate, i ne morate da spuštate svoje kriterijume zato što osećate pritisak bilo s njegove, bilo od strane bilo koga drugog. Ne treba da se ustručavate da kažete "ne" ukoliko vam je neprijatno ili nešto ne želite, niti treba da se osećate loše jer je neko nezadovoljan vašim odbijanjem, niti da popuštate nauštrb svog zadovoljstva i dobrobiti. Nije nikakav zločin niti sramota reći "ne",  vaše je da budete iskreni i prema sebi i prema drugima, a na drugima je da to poštuju. I sama sam došla u situaciju da me je jurio neko koga nikad nisam ni upoznala koristeći društvene mreže, pisao mi iako sam ga ignorisala (upamtite da je i ignorisanje jedan od načina da kažete "ne"), a kada sam mu onemogućila sve načine da dođe do mene pokušao je da me omalovažava pred mojom prijateljicom, i znate šta? Uopšte mi nije žao i ne kajem se ni najmanje!
Devojke i žene, ne dozvolite da vam iko puni glavu idejama da morate da spustite kriterijume jer ste previše probirljive, da ćete ostati same ako se ne promenite i da je bolje išta nego ništa. Poštujte sebe i svoj integritet, nećete imati drugi život u kome ćete poništiti svoje loše odluke jer je neko treći mislio da zna bolje od vas i vršio pritisak na vas dok niste popustile, niti da obrišete to što ste nekome udovoljile samo da vas ne bi vređao i ogovarao jer nije umeo da prihvati vaše "ne" kao odgovor. Nisam ni ja utrošila toliko vremena gradeći svoju ličnost, radila na prevazilaženju svojih nesigurnosti i unapređenju sebe i svog života da bih se odrekla svog prava na izbor i da sama donosim svoje odluke. Zadržavate pravo da birate koga ćete puštati u svoj život, zadržavate pravo da kažete "ne". Takođe, svima onima koji govore da "ako je muškarac lep, onda je flertovanje, a ako je ružan onda je uznemiravanje" imam da kažem sledeće - NE. To nema veze s tim. Ukoliko devojka ili žena odgovara, uzvraća i prihvata, onda se radi o flertu, a ako vam je jasno stavila do znanja da nije zainteresovana i odbila vas, a vi se ne obazirete i navaljujete, to je uznemiravanje. To mora da prestane. Ni vama ne bi bilo prijatno kad bi se uloge zamenile, razmislite malo o tome.
Da pređemo na odevnu kombinaciju koju vam pokazujem u ovom postu - ovo je još jedan dobar način da kombinaciju koja je sastavljena od nekih jednostavnijih komada unapredite nečim upečatljivim. Sad kad je hladnije preporučujem bunde od veštačkog krzna (nikako ne volim pravo krzno), a ako ste dovoljno odvažne možete se opredeliti za neku u netipičnoj boji. Prošle godine sam nabavila jednu pastelnoroze koju možete videti u ovom postu, a sada imam i jednu u ovoj predivnoj nijansi zelene!
Da li i vi volite da nosite ovakve jakne i bunde, koju biste boju odabrali za svoje kombinacije? Recite mi u komentarima! Takođe bih volela da podelite sa mnom i ako ste imali neka neprijatna iskustva s ljudima koji su želeli da se osećate loše jer ste im rekli "ne" i kako ste se izborili s tim. Možete da ohrabrite mnoge koji su se našli u nezgodnim situacijama. ♡



First and foremost, shout out to all the men I've ever said no to who behaved the way they're expected to - by accepting it and moving on with their lives. However, there are very few men who are capable of respecting the fact that they've been turned down and taking it seriously, there are so many more of those who think that "all they have to do is to be persistent and the girl will accept them eventually" and who will keep trying to get what they want, and when they end up getting turned down by you for the 1000th time they will try to insult and humiliate you, talk crap about you in front of your friends because they can't cope with it, and they're doing it all to make you feel bad, or even guilty for turning them down so you'd change your mind just to make them shut up. Just like not every man wants to be with you because he doesn't fancy you (which is perfectly normal) and won't change his mind because you keep stalking and suffocating him, it is also true, my dear girls and women, that you're in no way obliged to accept everyone who approaches you and you always have the right to say "no". You can't like every guy you come across and meet, nor are you obliged to, and you don't have to lower your standards because you're pressured by either that guy or anyone else. You shouldn't be afraid to say "no" when you're uncomfortable with something or when you don't want something, nor should you feel bad because someone is displeased by being turned down by you, and you shouldn't switch your "no" to a "yes" if it contradicts your pleasure and well-being. Saying "no" is neither a crime nor a shameful thing to do, it's your duty to be honest with yourself and others, and it's the duty of other people to respect your decisions. I myself have been in such a situation when a random guy I never met was chasing me through social media despite the fact that I constantly ignored him (keep in mind that ignoring is also a way to say "no" to someone), and when I blocked him from contacting me in every possible way he tried to belittle me in front of my friend, and guess what? I don't feel bad about it one bit! 
My dear girls and women, never let anyone fill your head with things like "you need to lower your standards because you're too picky, you'll be alone forever if you don't change, something is always better than nothing" and so on. Respect yourself and your integrity, you won't have a new life that will let you undo the bad choices you've made because someone else thought they knew better than you and pressured you until you broke, nor will you be able to erase the fact that you chose to please someone just to stop them from insulting you and talking shit about you because they couldn't take your "no" for an answer. I didn't spend so much time on building my personality, overcoming my insecurities and making progress in life to give up on my right to choose and make my own decisions. You always have the right to choose who to let into your life, you always have the right to say "no". Also, I have something to say to all those who say things like "If the guy is good looking, it's flirting, and if he's ugly then it's harassment." - NO. It has nothing to do with that. If the girl or woman accepts you and reciprocates, that's flirting, but if she clearly told you that she wasn't interested and said "no" to you, but you're still pushy, that's harassment. That has got to stop. If the roles were switched you wouldn't be fine with it either, think about it.
Let's get onto the outfit I decided to show you in this post - this is another good way to elevate a basic outfit with a statement piece. Now that it's getting colder I recommend faux fur coats (I don't like real fur one bit), and if you're bold enough you can choose one in a color that isn't very typical. Last year I got one in pastel pink, which you can see in this post, and now I have one in this gorgeous shade of green!
Do you like wearing faux fur coats and jackets, which color would you pick for your outfits? Let me know in the comments! I would also like you to share some unpleasant experiences that you may have had because someone wasn't fine with you saying "no" to them and how you handled it, this could help many who still don't know how to stand up for themselves and inspire them. ♡